How to break up with your boyfriend without hurting him

April 7th, 2011 by admin | No Comments | Filed in Uncategorized

When I was in high school, I remember I was in love with this guy who literally a nerd and has no friends whatsoever. We were in love for about 6 months and I realized that he is just too nerdy to me (I was in this famous girl group, and he is in a no man group). At the 7th month, I really do not love him and want to dump him badly but I cant coz he loves me too much and I really want him to dump me instead but that would ruin my reputation (i.e. got dumped by a nerd). So what should I do to break up with him without hurting him?

Sound familiar? Trust me, it happens all the time to everyone in the whole wide world that at one point you have to dump him and yet you do not want to destroy your reputation of being “Kelly the heart breaker”. At the end you still want to remains friends without hurting your boyfriend’s feeling.

So here is the top 5 steps to break up with your boyfriend without hurting him and still stay as friends:
1- Choose a right date to break up with him
To dump your boyfriend on his birthday or on the anniversary of his parent’s wedding is a NO NO. You definitely do not want to ruin his happy moment into a teary and worst day of his life. Hence, choose the most insignificant day to breakup with your boyfriend is the first step.

2- Keep a distance for at least a week
Avoid seeing him for at least a week. This should allow you enough time to plan on careful words to be used on the break up day. Take time to think of choices of words to be used, stay positive as much as possible. If he calls you, tell him that you are busy and could not talk or simply told him that you have to call your mom now and hence could not speak long with him. Hopefully, he could sense something and be emotionally prepared for the break up day.

3- Think of top 10 reasons and be prepared to the big question WHY
Take your one week to be ready for the big question WHY from your boyfriend and prepared or brainstorm the top 10 reasons why you would want to dump your boyfriend. Stay positive and stay away from the blaming game, for example instead of saying “you never make me happy”, say “I am not happy”.

4-Find a suitable place for dumping him
Find a place where it is not crowded but not too restrictive. Just in case he feel sad and burst into tear, you do not want to humiliate him in front of 1000 people. Furthermore, you also do not want to risk hurting your self just in case he turns violent due to the heated argument.

5- DO NOT GIVE HIM FALSE HOPE
I cannot stress enough of this because sometimes after seeing his teary eyes, you may have tend to give him false hope such as “I will be there for you whenever you need a listening ear”. Simply tell him that he would find someone who loves him back and this is not the end of the world. Finally walk away from him without giving him any false hope.

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What to say to initiate a breakup – breakup lines

April 1st, 2011 by admin | No Comments | Filed in Uncategorized

Breaking up is a tough thing to do and you could risk becoming an enemy of a person you used to love and care about. Therefore, finding a suitable time to being the break-up conversation is essential. For example, you may not want to breakup with someone when they are in a bad mood or when they have to go to work the next day or when they have urgent things to attend to. In other words, find a suitable time for both of you to concentrate on the long tedious conversation.

Now that you are arranging for a suitable time for the breakup conversation, you would want to start using the following breakup lines to being the conversation:

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1. We need to talk.
2. It’s not your fault. It’s me.
3. I’ve lied.
4. You’re perfect in every way, just not for me.
5. You are like a sister/brother to me.
6. I think we would be better off friends.
7. It’s not you, it’s me. It is hard to explain, you know what you want and I just don’t know what I want right now.
8. Do you really want to know why I go out to dinner with my assistant?
9. Have you always been so boring?
10. I am sorry, hunny, but I can’t buy you that diamond necklace.
11. I love you but I’m not in love with you so I guess I’m more of a lesbian than we thought.
12. I want to have fun and I’m not ready to carry a burden through my youth
13. You have an irrational (emotional) intensive feeling for me which frightens me.”
14. I have these spirit guides and as I drove home today they were telling me very strongly that we live too far apart and it’s never going to work
15. You don’t engage me anymore
16. Ideally, I would like to write my book, and once I finish I’ll give you an answer as to whether we will be together or not.”
17. I just don’t think we’re ‘suitable’ suitable
18. I could have easily have married you….maybe if we’re still single in five years…
19. I think we both rushed into this relationship so fast but forgot to get to know each other. We should have taken our time. You can’t fall in love in two months but we were so keen to try.”
20. I love you. I love hanging out with you. You are so easy to live with. I want everything to remain the same except the boyfriend/girlfriend thing
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In summary, when you want to breakup with someone; first choose a suitable time for both of you to have a long discussion. Second, choose the right starting breakup lines to avoid hurting your partner as shown above.

Now that you have learnt some tips to start a breakup conversation, I wish you luck…

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