When I was in high school, I remember I was in love with this guy who literally a nerd and has no friends whatsoever. We were in love for about 6 months and I realized that he is just too nerdy to me (I was in this famous girl group, and he is in a no man group). At the 7th month, I really do not love him and want to dump him badly but I cant coz he loves me too much and I really want him to dump me instead but that would ruin my reputation (i.e. got dumped by a nerd). So what should I do to break up with him without hurting him?
Sound familiar? Trust me, it happens all the time to everyone in the whole wide world that at one point you have to dump him and yet you do not want to destroy your reputation of being “Kelly the heart breaker”. At the end you still want to remains friends without hurting your boyfriend’s feeling.
So here is the top 5 steps to break up with your boyfriend without hurting him and still stay as friends:
1- Choose a right date to break up with him
To dump your boyfriend on his birthday or on the anniversary of his parent’s wedding is a NO NO. You definitely do not want to ruin his happy moment into a teary and worst day of his life. Hence, choose the most insignificant day to breakup with your boyfriend is the first step.
2- Keep a distance for at least a week
Avoid seeing him for at least a week. This should allow you enough time to plan on careful words to be used on the break up day. Take time to think of choices of words to be used, stay positive as much as possible. If he calls you, tell him that you are busy and could not talk or simply told him that you have to call your mom now and hence could not speak long with him. Hopefully, he could sense something and be emotionally prepared for the break up day.
3- Think of top 10 reasons and be prepared to the big question WHY
Take your one week to be ready for the big question WHY from your boyfriend and prepared or brainstorm the top 10 reasons why you would want to dump your boyfriend. Stay positive and stay away from the blaming game, for example instead of saying “you never make me happy”, say “I am not happy”.
4-Find a suitable place for dumping him
Find a place where it is not crowded but not too restrictive. Just in case he feel sad and burst into tear, you do not want to humiliate him in front of 1000 people. Furthermore, you also do not want to risk hurting your self just in case he turns violent due to the heated argument.
5- DO NOT GIVE HIM FALSE HOPE
I cannot stress enough of this because sometimes after seeing his teary eyes, you may have tend to give him false hope such as “I will be there for you whenever you need a listening ear”. Simply tell him that he would find someone who loves him back and this is not the end of the world. Finally walk away from him without giving him any false hope.
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